Three things to say instead of “I’m lucky”

Instead of Saying I'm Lucky

Instead of Saying I'm Lucky

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If I may vent for a moment: I can’t tell you how sick I am of women saying they’re lucky to be where they are, whether it be at a company or in a position. They act like they have a successful and fulfilling career because the universe was smiling at them the day they got offered that job. Here’s a reality check to marinate on, they’re NOT lucky. And neither are you. You’re actually so much better than that.

I know because I used to be one of those women. That is until Mika Brzezinski and her brilliant little book, Knowing Your Value, gave me that same reality check. Now expressing the idea of “feeling lucky” makes my skin crawl. But for a couple years, I was doing it.

Two years ago I worked at a company that I was so passionate about. I had basically doodled a heart around my name and that company in my notebook. I was, how do you say, smitten?

When asked about work, I’d recite everything I loved about my job and, like clockwork, finish by  expressing how lucky I was to be given that opportunity at such a young age.

About a year into the job my mom suggested I read Mika’s book. I was surprised by how much hit home with me. Mika talked about how when women use the word “lucky” to describe their career or advancement at a company it actually devalues them. And more importantly how you’ll hardly ever hear a man talking like that. Makes sense right? Women naturally attach emotion to everything. But I quickly learned that “luck” was the wrong emotion in this case.

I thought back to how many times in the past year I said I was lucky and grew disgusted with myself. When I stepped out of my smitten dream job bubble, I saw my situation for what it really was: A great opportunity I was afforded because I worked really fucking hard.

Luck had nothing to do with it.

So how about giving ourselves some credit?

If you feel really fortunate to be at the company you work for or in the position you currently hold, I’m challenging you to appreciate yourself FIRST. So when you feel compelled to say how lucky you are, here are three things to say instead:

1. “I earned this opportunity”

Chances are if you’re at a prestigious company or in a high-valued role, you probably worked your ass off to get there. So own it. Anyone experiencing the current job market can agree that securing a good position is no easy task, so don’t treat it as such. Your instinct may be to feel humbled because you were given an opportunity, but the reality is no one gave you anything. You earned it. Remember those sleepless nights reciting interview questions? Or how about those years spent slaving away to make your boss look good? Feeling lucky now darling? No? Good.

2. “I made some really good choices”

Remember, your choice to accept a role is just as important as their choice to offer it to you. The steps you take in your career are a direct result of the decisions you make both in negotiations and on the job. Try not to get caught up in thinking that your company is in control of where you are or where you’re headed. Recognize that it’s because of YOUR choices that you are where you are today. Now give yourself a pat on the back.

3. “They’re lucky to have me”

How does it feel to throw the ball back in their court? Pretty awesome right? Something I realized after reading Mika’s book was just how lucky that company was to have me on their team. Here I was, so passionate and dedicated to my work. I would work long hours, take on additional projects, and walk in with a smile on my face every single day. I did that because I loved what I did and I wanted to succeed at my job, but you know what? They were lucky. They had a dedicated and loyal employee and for that, they were the fortunate ones.

Now it’s your turn. Try these phrases out. It feels good I promise.

 

Have you ever caught yourself saying “I’m Lucky” when referencing your career? How does it make you feel now?

 

 

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