The best reason to break up with your job

Break Up With Your Job

Break Up With Your Job

There were many times in the last few years when I thought about quitting my job. Now if you know my story, you know I was never allowed the opportunity to quit my job. Companies always beat me to the punch. Lucky bastards.

There’s something about that feeling though. The urge to quit. It’s unsettling.  The bottom line was, while I experienced many euphoric work days when I was borderline-obsessed with my job, there was always something missing. Something that no matter how hard I tried to stop it, triggered a reoccurring feeling of “I should quit.”

If you’ve ever felt that way, I’m sure you have a reason. When I talk about this with my girlfriends I hear a lot of them.

“They don’t appreciate me. They don’t pay me enough. They’re never going to promote me. I hate the people I work with. I have no personal life. I don’t even like what I do anymore. My boss treats me like shit…I should quit.”

Sound familiar?

Make no mistake, those are all good reasons to reconsider your role at a company, but I challenge you to think of the best reason. After feeling this way for over three years I think I’ve nailed – I think I know the very best reason to break up with your job.

When your job prevents you or holds you back from being the best version of yourself. 

Allow me to make a relationship analogy.

Ok, I’m 25 years old and I grew up in the 90s so I’ve watched my fair share of rom-coms and grew up reading Nicholas Sparks novels. Meaning, I’m no stranger to the cliche, “You make me the best version of myself” line. I get it, it’s cheesy. It also couldn’t be more true.

The person you choose to spend your life with should compliment you, whoever you are. So why would the company or job you choose to commit to posses anything less than that criteria? Easy answer: It shouldn’t.

I realized this when I thought about what all my past jobs had in common. Why, despite the different offices, people, rules, and responsibilities, did I continued to feel a desire to walk away?

Then I thought about the protagonist woman in all the movies I’ve seen, standing at the alter in a goofy 90’s wedding dress saying, “I love you because I’m my best when I’m with you.”

I’m well aware my mind is a twisted fortress.

Nevertheless I couldn’t help but think: When I’m at my best, I’m constantly learning. And when I’m at my best I’m feeling challenged, or know for certainty there’s challenges ahead. And my jobs, while beneficial at times, ultimately held me back from being the best version of myself. After a certain period, I stopped learning, and I stopped feeling challenged. And then, like clockwork, I felt like I should quit.

The best reason for saying adios to your job is the same best reason for breaking up with a boy: You’re NOT the best version of yourself when you’re with them.

Now it’s your job to figure out who the best version of yourself actually is.

If you don’t know, that’s your first step. Try to paint the picture: What are you doing, thinking about, looking like, when you’re at your best? Once you know the answers to those questions, you’ll be able to evaluate whether or not the company you’re at is, or is capable of, complimenting you in that way. If they aren’t, then you’re better able to articulate the real reason, the BEST reason, to quit. Suddenly dumping that job of yours will feel less desperate, and more freeing.


Have you ever felt like you need to break up with your job? What was your reason? 

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